The month of May is making me tingle. I love the benefits of me enjoying my own body. So this one is dedicated to just that, all of the amazing benefits of pleasuring that beautiful body!
Masturbation/Erotic Self-Pleasure is good for mental and physical health, period. It is also one of the best ways we can learn about our very own sexuality. And there are so many other benefits that you may have never even thought of or realized.
Are there dangers to erotic self-pleasure? I have been asked this question and have been told this is a reason why someone does not do this for themselves. So, I want to take a moment and address this first thing, as I did have a student client send me a link to verify the dangers. So I watched the video, and it did not feel good to see, a doctor, a professional person, out in the world promoting this fake news/false education for their own gain. Just know there are people out there that are doing this very thing. What I do want to say is this, Dr. man on the web was spouting off the "dangers" to self-pleasure in order to sell his very own product. Which is outrageous and promoting lies and incorrect education to make him a profit, my stomach was sick. So there was no true basis for listening to this person and not to or stop masturbating.
So...Are There Any Actual Risks with Masturbation?
There are no true founded health risks with you enjoying your own body in this way. Skin irritation can happen if you are not using enough lubrication. Keeping yourself well lubed, even if your "wet", is a great way to slide into your explorations and this will enhance sensation as well. If you have an injury and/or a health condition and the action of erotically pleasuring yourself exacerbates the issue, refrain from engaging until you are healed.
If you worry that you masturbate too much, ask yourself this question: Just like anything, does it interfere with my daily functioning? If it gets in the way of your responsibilities...your self-care, your family, your job, or your social life. Meaning, a constant action, ALL THE TIME. Yes, then you may want to talk with someone. All the time does NOT mean daily or a couple of times a day. And, just so you know, I encourage you to connect with yourself, self-pleasure and enhance your orgasmic energy within your body every day!
So let's get to the amazing benefits!
(the order listed does not reflect if one is more important than another)
1. STRESS RELIEF
One of the best health benefits of erotic self-pleasure is that it is a terrific way of relieving stress and emotional and physical tension.
You retreat to your quiet space and there’s no-one intruding in your world, no reminders of all those pressures or things to do. Time out for pleasure.
It’s a special time just for you to connect with yourself and have a complete moment of self-pleasuring love.
Erotic self-pleasure is also exercise! Overall flexing of your genital muscles and orgasm is a real work out for your entire pelvic floor. In turn, helping to create more consistent, strong orgasms.
The tension that is created from flexing your muscles of the whole body, lot's of times unknown to you at the moment, builds stronger body muscles as a whole. Has your body been sore the day after an amazing session with yourself? I know mine has...my booty, stomach, back, arms, and legs!
3. SLEEP AID
It can help with sleep. It fights insomnia in a natural way, through tension and hormonal releases.
In the anticipation of climax, the “feel-good” hormone, Dopamine, is released. Then, after climax, oxytocin, the bonding/calming hormone, is released along with endorphins which provide that lovely afterglow that can drift you into sleep. I love those yummy hormonal releases flowing through my body!
4. MOOD ENHANCER
One of the main reason I truly love to erotically self-pleasure myself is it feels so damn good! Masturbation is truly an instant mood enhancer.
The hormones that are released before, during and after climax – dopamine, and epinephrine are natural mood-boosters. Yes, for the WIN/WIN on mood happiness.
5. CERVICAL HEALTH FOR FEMALE BODIES
Female erotic self-pleasure is very beneficial because of the muscular function known as "tenting". During orgasm, the cervix opens and it is this "tenting" that stretches and pulls cervical mucus which has increased in volume and acidity. The acidity is due to an increase in friendly bacteria, and during this process, the fluid moves from the cervix to the vagina, lubricating it and flushing out any unfriendly bacteria/organisms that can cause infections.
6. PROSTATE HEALTH FOR MALE BODIES
It is generally accepted that regular erotic self-pleasure helps reduce the risk of prostate cancer in men. Also helping the sperm quality, as there are less DNA damage and motility problems with fresh sperm.
7. HEALTHY HEART
Supports a stronger heart and greater resistance to CHD (coronary heart disease). The blood is pumping increasing your heart rate, in turn, exercising your heart muscles.
8. STRENGTHENS RELATIONSHIPS
Not everyone is currently in or choosing to step into having a great sex life for themselves, and not everyone’s sexual needs are on the same level as that of their partner(s). So it is a great way to strengthen your relationship with your self. Along with discovering what pleases you the most and then being able to communicate that to your partner(s) to bring you closer and have more pleasure together. As well as engaging in mutual erotic self-pleasuring/mutual masturbation at the same time!
One of the more enlightening, maybe even called spiritual benefits of erotic self-pleasuring, is that it can help you along the path of self-empowerment. Integrating the whole body and genitals instead of seeing these as separate. Knowing you can love and nurture yourself emotionally and sexually is essential to your complete self-awareness.
10. HELPS RELIEVE CRAMPS FOR THE FEMALE BODY
Erotic self-pleasure is a natural cramp reliever, this means you may be able to spend less time in your suffering. This increases blood flow so you receive more oxygen throughout the body. During arousal and orgasm, the brain releases delightful chemicals like dopamine, endorphins, and serotonin. During all of this, your pain tolerance actually goes up, so it acts as a natural pain reliever within the body. So next time you have some cramps, try some erotic self-pleasure and your period pains may diminish or disappear altogether!
11. BOOSTS YOUR IMMUNE SYSTEM
Sexual arousal and orgasm increase the absolute number of leukocytes, in particular, natural killer cells. That lowers your risk of getting colds and your overall chance of getting sick in any way. The conclusion from the study done by the Department of Medical Psychology, University Clinic of Essen- "These findings demonstrate that components of the innate immune system are activated by sexual arousal and orgasm." Wow, that I love, complete body pleasure and boosting my immunities at the same time. Another fantastic WIN/WIN!
12. NOT AS MANY FOOD CRAVINGS
Higher levels of oxytocin make us feel happier, which keeps those emotionally-triggered food cravings for sugars, salt, and other “comfort foods" at bay.
13. IMPROVED MENTAL CLARITY
A healthy dose of natural chemicals, including dopamine "feel good hormone" helps the body with attention, and improved short-term memory.
14. MAKES INTERCOURSE BETTER
Erotic self-pleasure can help us explore the types of touch we like the most and helps us learn what gets us excited, be in our arousal, and how to reach climax. Learning about what feels good to you increases your chance of feeling sexual pleasure with your sex partner(s). When you know what you like when it comes to sex, your comfort with sex increases. And when your confidence and comfort levels are high, it is easier to let your partner know what you like. Increasing more pleasure for all person(s) involved.
15. EASES MENOPAUSE PROBLEMS FOR FEMALE BODIES
When a woman goes through menopause, her body goes through some major changes. Erotic self-pleasuring can help prevent atrophy of the vaginal canal and lack of natural secretions, boosting blood flow and increases sexual desire.
16. AGING IS SLOWED
One of the chemicals, oxytocin, which is released, speeds up wound healing and slows down cellular-aging and increases life expectancy.
17. NO PREGNANCIES OR STI's
There is nothing wrong with choosing not to have sex with someone else, but yourself. It's an option to stay STI free and avoid becoming pregnant.
18. RELEASES SEXUAL TENSION
Sometimes our desire for sexual pleasure isn't always timed perfectly with our partner(s). Erotic self-pleasure is a great way to fulfill that feeling for pleasure at that moment with our own needs, satisfying yourself!
19. IMPROVES BODY IMAGE
You have a beautiful body. The more you allow yourself to be naked and bask in sexual pleasure, the better you'll feel about yourself. After a while, you can start to feel more comfortable with your body, which will end up boosting your self-confidence.
Your skin, oh that beautiful skin. Erotic self-pleasure and partnered sex cause your blood vessels to dilate, and you send lots of blood closer to the surface of your skin. At the same time, your body pumps a lot of oxygen into your red blood cells. Many women (me), and some men, experience what is called "sex flush" just before and after climax. And, did you know more blood and oxygen in the skin is attractive to others?
*Researchers from the University of St. Andrews in Scotland found that men selected photos of women featuring a slightly rosier glow as being more attractive. So you might want to consider, if you are looking for a partner, to masturbate just before you head out to meet that special someone.
ALL of these benefits are Amazing! I love, support and promote erotic self-pleasure, masturbation or whatever you choose to call it. So...enjoy yourself. This is your own personal discovery of just how beneficial this pleasuring act of self-love truly is!
In erotic breath, love, and hugs from my heart to your heart ~Dragonfly💜