Porn for Entertainment Not Education

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You’re laying in bed, and you’re thinking about your significant other or that super hot stranger you made eye contact with earlier. They have brown hair and blue eyes. You start to feel worked up, but the image of them and the fantasy in your mind isn’t enough, so you pull out your computer or phone and search through Porn for a performer that looks like them. In minutes, you’ve found something. You click it on and not long after that an orgasm is reached. 

Porn is great. It’s loud, exciting, and interesting. Self pleasure is an act of love, and it’s nice to find a quick way to reach a release. The internet has made it super accessible and there’s so many different types to watch. Noticed how I used the word performer, though. Although Porn is exciting to watch, it’s not a very good educational tool and I’ll tell you why. 

If you ask many men how they first learned about sex, they’ll probably mention surfing the internet looking at Porn. Unfortunately, this shouldn’t be their first educational experience. 

Porn is a performance. The people they hire to produce Porn are performers. Although many of them have actual orgasmic experiences on camera, those experiences are not always captured. Like shooting regular film, sometimes scenes are repeated and sex movements are exaggerated for the camera. What is made for our eye is often a larger than life scenario that doesn’t happen in actuality. 

If you’ve ever seen a play, you’ll notice that the actors make bigger hand gestures and project their voice for the audience. Porn is like a play but with more moaning and lots of nudity. 

What is digestible in film isn’t always what is digestible in life. You may think your partner wants you to “fuck like a Porn star” but in all actuality, they want something entirely different. They’d rather you be very slow and take your time. 

For starters, the clitoris is a little more difficult to navigate than what you see in Porn. Every woman is different and learning her body is an experience that is not easily transcribed in Porn. Sex takes a lot of communication at first- or at least for it to be enjoyable. Every partner is new and likes different things. There is no standard way to have intimate experiences with someone. 

Not everyone likes to receive oral. Not everyone enjoys doggy style. Not everyone likes kink. People are vastly different and enjoy vastly different things. The only way to learn how to have great sex with your partner is by communicating with them. 

Porn is also edited. That means all of the mishaps, awkward moments, and silly transitions are not there for us to see. Sex isn’t perfect. Especially at first. When we are with someone new, it can be very uncomfortable in the beginning. Bumping into one another, awkwardly moving into a different sex position, trying something that just doesn’t work out, and putting on and taking off the condom are all things that happen in sex but are not apparent in Porn. Porn is about fantasy and fantasy is very different than real life. 

Male Porn stars also have larger than normal penis sizes and those sizes are often exaggerated. You may think from watching Porn that your size is less than average, but this isn’t true. Camera angles can add length. They can make anything looker bigger than normal. Comparing your penis to Porn star’s genitals is unrealistic because what you see isn’t actually real. 

Even Pornhub itself knows that the Porn they have to view isn’t educational. Which is why they have created a website that is! Pornhub now has the Sexual Wellness Center. Their website covers anatomy, STIs, reproductive health, and even articles about building sexual relationships. I think it speaks volumes about the lack of sexual education in Porn when a top leading Porn site starts a separate site for education. 

We love Porn. Porn is fun to view with partners. It can help get the mood going. It is an easy, accessible way to reach an orgasm quickly. There are many benefits to it. We just understand and we hope others understand, too, that it’s purpose is not to educate you on how to have sex. You should never watch Porn with the intention to learn something new. 

If you’re having problems within your relationship, looking to Porn to spice things up probably isn’t the best option. That’s why people like me exist! Working with a CSB -Certified Sexological Bodyworker- can help you and your partner enrich your sexual and intimate lives, and the experience you are searching for.. We are trained to do exactly this. We understand sex and the complexity of intimate relationships. Other educational sources are available, too. There are so many options out there now to become deeper educated on sexuality. Porn is not one of them. 

My blog alone offers tools to further your sexual education. I frequently offer classes . I also know of other professionally trained experts that are passionate to give you the answers you are looking for. We are here. We want to help, and we are knowledgeable. Save Porn for fun and fantasy!